Master's Words

 

   

Be Liberated From The

Relying Quality

Spoken By Supreme Master Ching Hai At Group Meditation, Los Angeles, CA USA
March 13, 1993 (Originally In English)

You have too much of the relying quality. When we were born we rely on our parents, grow up relying on sisters and brothers. When people hit you, you came home and said, "Brother, go and hit him! We rely on our sisters, brothers, rely on teachers, and grow up relying on husband or wife.

You rely on people all the time. Husbands cannot cook, have to ask the wives. The wife, because she cooks good, she does many things for him, so he is afraid of her. Without her, he is finished. He can't cook, he dies; he can't sew his button rightly on the shirt, he dies, for example. So, he needs her and depends on her. She knows that and she plays hell. All the wives depend on the husbands because of money, because of fame, because of security, because of face, anything. Then both are not liberated, not free. We think we are free, but we are very limited.

Most people give in or bow their heads just because of security, habit or no courage. Just for personal things. It's all right. As long as you are happy and you feel settle down, that's okay. Just remember we are not as free if we always depend and rely on someone else to do everything for us; we can never grow. We can never have the real life essence and some choice in life that we know why it's worth living and how our wisdom can grow more everyday. How we can make use of it, if we really have benefitted from this practice.