True love means the other party does not feel we exist, that we
are not around him, not taking u* his space, not making him feel
bound. He feels more comfortable being closer to us; the less we
bind him, the more he wants to come near. This is then the true
love! This is the love of God, the love of the Buddhas and
Bodhisattvas.
No one could leave a living Buddha forever without missing Him,
no matter how that Buddha scolded him, because he knows this is the
true love.
To criticize is easy, but to do the job is not.
Our willpower is very strong. If we concentrate it on a certain
aspect, we will achieve the goal.
If we truly love a person, release him, set him free. We should
not always tie him down, expecting him to do what we want!
It is useless just looking at the enlightened Master without
introspecting yourself! Probe into your own dark spots, the
suspicions, the mistakes, and the aspects covered by your ego.
Only then can you see your inner Master!
We must handle things when necessary, and with flexibility! We
have to be hard or soft as appropriate. No matter soft or hard,
fierce or sweet, always do it from our heart. Being sincere and
frank, without any complicated thought.
Afraid of being criticized and judged by other people, you
swallow your anger. This is not compassion, or gentleness. You
are not doing this for the good of that person, only for yourself!
This is selfishness, not a gentleman, not a nice person.
Spiritual practitioners should be able to judge, and know how to
handle different circumstances. We cannot respond to all
situations in the same way.